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Remember a time when fear of failing at something stopped you from trying it at all? A person having fear of failure, subconsciously, underestimates his capabilities to avoid larger failures.
When you have a fear that you won’t be able to accomplish something, you take the easiest path of not starting it altogether to avoid failure and embarrassment. It’s quite natural too, you feel scared when you need to go beyond your comfort zone.
The fear of failure gets instilled from our early childhood when our parents stop us doing certain things like don’t do this, avoid this or do else. It makes us extra cautious and permission seekers, hence we don’t do things without taking prior permission from our parents or a guardian.
And as we grow older, this fear or belief becomes unconscious and automatic. It takes its seats deep in your subconscious mind and you even aren’t aware of its presence. It is like an invisible puppet master which controls you from the shadows.
5 Proven Ways To Overcome The Fear Of failure
Below I will share some useful tips to help you overcome your fear of failure.
# 1: Remember There’s Nothing Like Failure But Learnings
This is the first and the most important step towards overcoming the fear of failure. You need to recognize failures as learning experiences. Always keep in mind that there is nothing like the failure but learning. Whenever you fail at something, you do learn a lesson from it.
When you are learning a new skill or starting a project, fear is a part of learning process. It will help you differentiate between what works and what doesn’t. When you learn to accept failure as a learning experience, you will able to see it as a gift because it is neither a punishment nor a sign of weakness.
The great example of taking failure as a learning experience is Thomas Edison who invented the first bulb after failing 10000 times. When people asked Edison what caused him to carry on, he replied, every time I failed in making a bulb I didn’t think that I failed, rather I said to me I have found a way following which we can’t make a bulb.
Myshkin Ingawale, an Indian inventor failed 31 times in testing prototypes of his technology before he found the one that worked. His invention has cut down the maternal death rate in rural India by 50%. He could have given up in his first or second attempt and characterized himself as a failure, but he refused to take this easiest path and kept focused on learning from his mistakes and applying them to the future.
# 2: Identify The Root Cause
Dig deep inside you and identify the root cause of your fear of failure, this will really help you to overcome this.
Sit down, take a deep breath and ask yourself when and where did your fear of failure originate, and observe what you see, feel or hear.
Once you manage to figure out the what resulted in your fear of failure, you will also notice that your mind’s perception of fear of failure is far away from the accurate.
The possible root cause of your fear of failure may be the over-protective parents or a strict teacher, if it is the case with you then you will clearly see that they did those things because they wanted the best for you.
So, you need to identify the root cause of your fear of failure and they look it at as an outsider, this will help you to see the real picture.
# 3: Allow Yourself To Feel The Fear
Most often we allow the fear to paralyze us because we just hate feeling fear. The truth is if you allow yourself to feel the fear, you will see that it dissipates in a matter of minutes and the situation becomes more manageable in all of a sudden. Sure enough, avoiding fearful feelings isn’t going to help you at all.
A deep breathing exercise can help you feel better and shift the fear. The next time you find yourself getting fearful, sit down in a quiet place, set your timer for two minutes and start taking deep breaths. Feel where you feel the tension or tightness in your body, and start breathing into that part of your body until your timer goes off. By doing this simple breathing exercise, hopefully, you will notice your fear has shifted.
With practice, you will trigger your body’s natural calm response and you will swim through the fear like a boss.
# 4: Simplify Your Tasks
When you try to see a complex task from your mind’s eye, it makes you feel overwhelmed, this is because complexity is something hard to visualize. This creates a fear of failure in your mind and you feel you won’t be able to get that done.
When you see a task as a whole it appears complex and you don’t start it because it appears to be really hard one to get through.
There is a simple solution to this and that is simplifying your task at hand. Just break down a complex task into simple and easy to manage parts this will help you get started. And once you manage to make a start the rest will become much easier for you.
# 5: Be kind to yourself
To overcome your fear of failure, you need to be kind to yourself. You also need to keep moving with your fears and treat yourself sympathetically unlike most people who beat themselves up for having fears.
All you need is having an understanding of why you have these fears and what are their root cause is, in this way you will able in a good shape to work with your fears.
- Firstly take a piece of paper and write down your fears in detail.
- Secondly, learn to accept those fear as part of you. It will help you to regain control of your fear of failure.
These are some useful ways to overcome the fear of failure. Identifying the root cause, accepting the fear and taking failures as learning experiences are the really great ways to considerably reduce your fear of failure.
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